Is there a specific time frame before you can give the label “boyfriend/girlfriend”? If it’s possible for two people to fall in love at first sight, then why can’t you commit at first sight? The label of boyfriend/girlfriend is just a validation. It’s like the bow on a present; you would never assume a plain box was a present, if it didn’t have a bow.
I was approached with this question by a good friend, someone that I look to for advice, after a quick recap of my fantasy weekend. His intake and the responses he gave were somewhat satisfying, until I mentioned a certain word. Then his opinion changed. “Don’t you think you’re moving too fast?” I wasn’t sure if I was blown back by my hesitation to answer the question, or by his questioning of my judgment. In the moment of hesitation, I compared this “now” feeling with the feelings of the past that had led to a three year relationship. And that’s when I realized that my “now” feelings were less than that of my past’s. This “now” feeling withheld everything that made the past a disaster.
I’m happy. I’m completed. And even if it’s for a short period of time, in which I pray it isn’t, what’s wrong with me being happy? If a label or quick commitment makes me happy, so be it. Love is work the risk, right? Is a quick burst of happiness so wrong? Take the pair of shoes in your closet that you never got rid of. You got the same since of fulfillment, when you first purchased those then “in style” pair of shoes. Once they are out of style, did you feel as though time was wasted or that your heart was cheated? No, because you were thinking within the moment that bought them. And later on you came to realize, when the unreachable was miles away, it was those shoes that joined you on that journey. So to me there isn’t a time frame to assign the label of “boyfriend/girlfriend”. When you know, you know. And when it’s right, it’s right. We might have gone through a couple of pairs, but we all have, or will have that one good pair of shoes. The pair that came in style went “out” of style, and we still love. Now I ask… What if we never had taken the risk of buying those shoes, in that moment of happiness?
I was approached with this question by a good friend, someone that I look to for advice, after a quick recap of my fantasy weekend. His intake and the responses he gave were somewhat satisfying, until I mentioned a certain word. Then his opinion changed. “Don’t you think you’re moving too fast?” I wasn’t sure if I was blown back by my hesitation to answer the question, or by his questioning of my judgment. In the moment of hesitation, I compared this “now” feeling with the feelings of the past that had led to a three year relationship. And that’s when I realized that my “now” feelings were less than that of my past’s. This “now” feeling withheld everything that made the past a disaster.
I’m happy. I’m completed. And even if it’s for a short period of time, in which I pray it isn’t, what’s wrong with me being happy? If a label or quick commitment makes me happy, so be it. Love is work the risk, right? Is a quick burst of happiness so wrong? Take the pair of shoes in your closet that you never got rid of. You got the same since of fulfillment, when you first purchased those then “in style” pair of shoes. Once they are out of style, did you feel as though time was wasted or that your heart was cheated? No, because you were thinking within the moment that bought them. And later on you came to realize, when the unreachable was miles away, it was those shoes that joined you on that journey. So to me there isn’t a time frame to assign the label of “boyfriend/girlfriend”. When you know, you know. And when it’s right, it’s right. We might have gone through a couple of pairs, but we all have, or will have that one good pair of shoes. The pair that came in style went “out” of style, and we still love. Now I ask… What if we never had taken the risk of buying those shoes, in that moment of happiness?
